I flock to movies and TV shows like this. Always have. Hallmark channel and I are best friends. I imagine how it would be to be the little girl, and how touching it is to have that bond with your mother.
I just wonder if all those people working in adoption agencies have any idea what they are really doing? Encouraging women to walk away from their baby, and taking the risk that another woman may not be able to fully love and adore her the same way she would?
Its a crap shoot, really. How will the dice roll, who will win, who will lose? How do these people go home at night, and sleep soundly knowing they have not done everything on God's green earth to keep that mother and her baby together? Do they realize they are robbing an entire family of a sister, a brother, an aunt, uncle, cousin, and even worse, a grandchild?
There is loss for everyone. History is changed. Lives are forever altered, never the same again. Yet you search the internet now and see the ad's for adoption's and it almost makes me feel panicked. I cannot go there, and I cannot get myself so upset that I want to march down on the local street with a sign saying, "Family Preservation" --"Dont give your baby away."
I know not everyone has an unhappy adoption experience, but there are plenty of them out there. Its not like we get to choose as the adoptee. Having a fairly painful experience myself, I often wonder what it would be like to be someone else. I could be anyone, in a different situation, with a completely different reality. Different parents, different city, country, the options are limitless.
At some point I would love to get up and speak to a large group of adoption agencies, and tell them what my experience has been and continues to be. And how they act as God "Creating families" that should not be created to begin with. The extreme sadness they have caused me.
Its a joke around my house, my adoption papers say "Baby Girl (C-2566)" no name, nothing but a number! So does this mean that when I was put into a foster home they called me..."Nothing?" Just said, oh hey baby girl C-2566! Its like a number from a catalog! ha! Baby for sale!
All joking aside, I cannot deny that I do not feel warm and fuzzy about this. I'm not super mad, but I would like to know "Who" had me for the first few months of my life? And I'd like to know the family that brought me back! I should be given the right to find out this information, its about me!
Those Hallmark movies and sappy TV shows will continue to be my favorite pass time, and I will probably continue to enjoy them regardless of the shoddy deal I got thanks to Holy Family Adoption Service, and those awful Nuns who were in charge back in the 60's. I am moving forward, I have accepted what I cannot achieve and will not have in this lifetime. That does not mean I cannot watch these movies and appreciate the mother/daughter bond. It reminds me of my daughter & I, how attached we are to one another, and that makes me deeply happy, and has to be enough.
I wish I could go down to this adoption agency and tell them the devastating consequences their bad judgement and lack of common decency have been and that it has taken me a lifetime to sort through all of the pain I have been dealt thanks to them!